Start your day mindfully and begin as you swing your legs out of bed…
#44 How I Use Colouring Therapy
I use Colouring for healing of worries, loss, and past hurts..
#43 How Mindfulness Empowers You
In this post, I want to share how I use mindfulness to help me through the overwhelm that a lifestyle change can bring..
#42 How to Grow, and Improve Self Awareness with Mindfulness and Meditation
Change of circumstance and then learning new ways of doing things is terrifying and leave me feeling vulnerable….
#40 How Holistic Living Improves Your Spiritual health.
I take a holistic approach to my personal life and work….
#38 Five Tips for Managing your Your Time Effectively -in the second half of life
I come across far too many retired people who are so exhausted…
#37 Optimal Wellness: How to live your best life
When complementary therapies come together for holistic healing, you are much more likely to experience wellness on a deeper level,
#36 How Apply Holistic Health for the Whole Person
Holistic health is about caring for the whole person — providing for your physical, mental, spiritual, and social needs..
#34 Faith is Action: Its’ never too late to set your yearly goals
Its never too late for you to set your goals and projects and set out your tasks. Where to start?
#33 Christians And Medical Care
When we are unwell or in need of any kind, we must pursue medical advice,
#32 What is Dyslexia?- A Reveal
Dyslexia is inherited,. People with dyslexia can, and have changed the world.
#25 Over Stepping The Mark: Exploring Clergy Power Abuse.
Not all power games involve struggles between laity and ordained ministers. Such conflicts occur at various levels, for instance, some church leaders are pawns in the hands of their church boards. Sometimes ministers become the victims of a small but influential faction within the Church.
#24 Should Christians Get Involved in Politics?
SHOULD BELIEVERS BE INVOLVED IN POLITICS?Some scholars use a famous quote of Jesus “Give Caesar what is Caesar’s” in the Gospel of as a directive to withdraw from all matters of politics. These scholars say that Jesus separated the political and religious worlds indefinitely, the two ought not meet. They argue that there is a realm where Caesar rules and another where God rules. Clearly, Jesus was not referring to politics, but to worship. In those days, the Caesars were regarded as living Gods. As a citizen of Israel and governed by Rome, they must give what is due to the government like paying taxes, but that is all, no Caesar worship is required for the child of God. Crucially, as a citizen of heaven, our worship belongs only to the One True God. He was instructing them to be observant of the governments laws and be faithful in worship.
#22 Escape From Your Abuser! Abuse is not acceptable
Have you been a victim of abuse? The infliction of Abuse is commonplace today and sadly, the Church is no exception.
#20 Can You Hear? Christ is calling you!
Jesus said that the shepherd “calls his own sheep by name, and leads them out” (v. 3). Day in and day out…
#18 Psalm 23 Unwrapped – Taster 3
We all have needs but are they are fulfilled differently for each individual. Some people prefer one-on-one relationships. They feel stressed within groups but comfortable one-on-one.
#17 TASTER 2 – Psalm 23 Unwrapped
Through the atoning work of Jesus Christ, Gods generous hospitality is poured out upon us. Led by the Good Shepherd, the Lord Jesus Christ who laid down his life for his sheep, leads his people through the kingdoms gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise.
#16 TASTER From My Book- Psalm 23 Unwrapped- on Amazon
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#14 Traces of Grief- Are you Grieving?
Traces of grief may always remain, it changed me. I suffered my first real experience of grief when..
#13 Watch Your Self-Talk!
We need to watch our self-talk. Anything negative will bring us down, while positive self-talk will lift our spirits.
#12 I am Dyslexic and Proud of it!
I have travelled the world and had three major careers, all of which I studied and worked hard for. I struggled through it all and wondered why my peers didn’t have the difficulties that I experienced. I didn’t know I was dyslexic until I was in my late forties. I was determined to get a Masters and attended Westminster College in Cambridge, England. The tutor spotted that may be dyslexic and asked me what I thought. I replied I never heard of the word Dyslexia, and asked, ‘what on earth is it???
Dyslexia is a common learning difficulty that can cause problems and with reading, writing and spelling and other things.
Unlike a learning disability, intelligence isn’t affected.
It’s estimated up to 1 in every 10 people in the UK has some degree of Dyslexia. In many people, it appears to be hereditary. It is undoubtedly misunderstood, and I have had my fair share of nasty comments and shunning and told to ‘don’t tell anybody’ from well-meaning friends and colleagues.
Dyslexia is a lifelong problem, we are born with it. It can present challenges daily, but support is available to improve reading, writing and coping skills to help you to be successful at school and work.
What are the Signs of Dyslexia?
Signs of Dyslexia usually become apparent when a child starts school and begins to focus more on learning how to read and write.
A person with Dyslexia may:
- read and write very slowly
- confuse the order of letters in words
- put letters the wrong way round (such as writing “b” instead of “d”)
- have weak or inconsistent spelling
- bad handwriting
- understand information when told verbally, but have difficulty with information that’s written down
- find it hard to carry out a sequence of directions
- struggle with planning and organisation
But people with Dyslexia often have excellent skills in other areas, such as creative thinking and problem-solving. These are only some of the symptoms, and you may one or two or more.
Getting Help
If you think you or your child may have Dyslexia, the first step is to speak to their teacher or their school’s special educational needs co-ordinator (SENCO) about your concerns. If you as an Adult, the dyslexia association will help advise you.
Support for People with Dyslexia
If your child has Dyslexia, they’ll probably need extra educational support from their school.
With appropriate support, there’s usually no reason your child can’t go to a mainstream school, although a small number of children may benefit from attending a specialist school.
Universities also have specialist staff who can support young people with Dyslexia in higher education. I received help after I was assessed as an upper percentile dyslexic. I could not have gotten through my university studies without this remail help. My dissertation scored a distinction which was a massive achievement for me!
Technology such as word processors and electronic organisers, speech to text software ware can be useful for adults, too. Employers are required to make reasonable adjustments to the workplace to help people with Dyslexia, such as allowing extra time for specific tasks.
Support Groups
As well as national dyslexia charities such as the British Dyslexia Association (BDA), there are several local dyslexia associations (LDAs).
These are independently registered charities that run workshops and help to provide local support and access to information. I know the emotional trauma a dyslexic can go through and so I also counsel dyslexic Adult so feel to contact me if you need help.
What Causes Dyslexia?
People with Dyslexia find it challenging to recognise the different sounds that makeup words and relate these to letters. Dyslexia isn’t associated with a person’s general level of intelligence. Children and adults of all intellectual abilities can be affected by Dyslexia.
The exact cause of Dyslexia is unknown, but it often appears to run in families. It’s thought specific genes inherited from your parents may act together in a way that affects how some parts of the Brain develop during early life.
We cant change being dyslexic, but we can change how we manage it and embrace it as a big advantage.
Brock, L, E. Etal. (2011) The Dyslexic Advantage: Unlocking the Hidden Potential of the dyslexic Brain. Hay House.UK.
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Love & Grace
Paula Rose Parish IHS
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#11 Through the Pandemic of the Coronavirus – We Grieved
Where is our memory stored? The materialist’s answer is in the brain’s hippocampus for long-term memories and the brain’s neocortex. A more subtle answer would say that all memory is stored in the deeper level of consciousness. Alan Wallace said we don’t think that a computer’s memory is stored in the keyboard. Why should we think the brain makes us conscious?
Living in Australia, one of the places I practised nursing was in the Southern Cross Catholic Residential Home. One lady who was one of my patients suffered from late-stage Alzheimer’s and could not communicate at all. Her daughters decided they would tell her that her husband, their father, had died, although they knew she would be unresponsive. She was chattering meaninglessly and appeared to be in another world, but when they told her of her husband’s death, she stopped chattering, and tears rolled down her cheeks.
That may not prove anything scientific about memory. Still, it suggests something about consciousness surviving the atrophy of the brain just as it has been shown to survive the clinical death of patients under medical care. To see someone whom we have lived with and loved for a lifetime lose their memory and drift away from us is dying while alive.
Through this pandemic of the coronavirus, we grieve over the countless lives lost. Death seems to be ever-present with us in these days. We pass through death at many intensity levels in our lifetime (Psalm 23). And yet, as with this patient, a core of consciousness connects us. Even when all the signs show that awareness has flickered out.
The persistence of deep memory – and love is a kind of memory continuously remembered and renewed – does not negate death. Love, like faith, is eternal. This is because God is Love itself, and God is eternal. Our faith in Christ is deep within our consciousness and goes beyond our physical death, allowing heaven to touch the earth.
Deep memory/consciousness transcends death and shows that life is a tremendous constant beyond physical death. Life is inextinguishable; we are eternal beings. Consciousness is life, and memory shows that love is stronger than death. Personal relationships teach us this. So does Jesus Christ, who teaches that we are transmitted in a stream of consciousness of a living memory that connects us to our source, God, and connects us to each other while carried forward on our individual journey.
For all of us today, our individual journeys in life are connected by the threat and fear of the coronavirus. For some of us, it has already meant the death of loved ones. For all, it triggers the awareness of our mortality and the uncertainties of change that we cannot control.
In such dark times, however, the memory of life experienced as a spiritual journey beginning and ending in mystery, full of inexplicable pain and joy but also full of wonder.
It is faith in the end that frees us from fear. We are first exposed to our real predicament: not having a spiritual path in times like this, lacking a source of meaning, and not seeing the spark of life hidden in the darkness of our deaths. All these are symptoms of another virus rampant in our materialism and delusion. Faith in Christ is the remedy which overcomes the fear of death and dying.
Our spiritual life cannot be separated from our everyday existence, being isolated at home with others or alone: we can make a realistic timetable including the things we need and want to do and post it where you will see it through the day. Consider if it feels balanced for your daily needs. Does it represent your everyday regular needs? Such as physical needs, mental needs and spiritual needs?
Adjusting to a daily rhythm to fulfil your basic human needs is the first step to getting a handle on the feeling of fear, panic and uncertainty. It is a step to curing the virus of fear and panic. It helps us to see health, death, and spirituality differently, even during a pandemic. When we have re-connected to the sense of the present, trusting in God, we will find that peace – the peace we lost in all that stress – is closer to us, deeper within us than we had ever imagined.
Try this Out!
Love & Grace
Paula Rose Parish IHS
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#10 Are You Living on the Edge ?
Last year, a clifftop street at Hensby in Norfolk began to crumble into the sea as Britain’s coastline was battered by wild weather from the beast from the east.
One homeowner described feeling a sudden tremble like an “earthquake” as the cliff gave way, and so did his house.
After days of high winds, a garden shed and an oil tank plummeted into the sea, and waves eroded the sandstone. Houses were left teetering on the EDGE!
Hemsby, Norfolk, has been deemed “too dangerous” for the residents of 13 chalets who have been evacuated and may lose their homes, and there is a “perfect chance” six of the properties will collapse into the sea. This is what it means to live on the edge- quite literally.
But what about thinking of living on the edge as a Metaphor?
The average person lives a life of quiet desperation. There are many things to experience, but they cannot. There are many things he or she does not want to do that he or she is forced to do because many sacrifices must be made to earn a living. Day in and day out, one must keep doing the same things in the same way to survive.
Life can become repetitive; for some, it feels like there is no way out.
But there is another type of human being who revolts against this mundane life, revels in the unpredictable and the unexpected, always takes risks, flirts with danger, and believes in living on the edge.
A true-life story of a which occurred recently. A young woman on her 18th birthday parachuted out of a plane to celebrate this milestone. But sadly, the celebration turned to tragedy as she plummeted to the ground. The parachute failed to open. She lived on the edge and lost.
In every profession—business, sports, politics or movies— there are people whose adventurous streak never lets them rest in peace, who are forever on the move, going out of their way to do the most extraordinary things because they believe in living on the edge. For many people, such a life seems exciting and colourful, and they would give anything to lead a similar life. Only if they had the guts, time and money!
But how healthy or desirable is such a life? Boredom may be bad for one’s health, but so is the constant pumping of adrenaline into one’s bloodstream that results in a risk-taking lifestyle. The risk of an untimely death is indeed real, as we have seen.
Looking at the teachings of Jesus Christ. Doesn’t the real art of living lies in the ability to find meaning and wholeness in the ordinary things of life? In the now, in this moment? The epistles declare to us a guideline on the best way to live
1 Timothy 2:2 Pray for kings and all in positions of high authority so that we may live a peaceful and quiet life in all godliness and dignity.
Whether it’s living on the edge quite literary as in Hornsby Norfolk or metaphorically jumping out of planes, whichever way one looks at it, living on the edge is certainly a risky and perhaps an unpredictable way to live – it’s not sure or solid, it’s transitory. There’s a popular that tells us that living on The edge feels much better!
And maybe it does feel so much better, but that feeling does not last. Maybe one has to create that feel-good factor to keep living on the edge, but it seems to me that living on the edge is just chasing feel-good feelings, but when that moment fades, when that feel-good feeling goes, then what?
A quiet and peaceful life is precious, and we will find it in prayer and following our Lord Christ. And, of course, following Christ is not without excitement; we can live our life to the Max in Christ and find all the adventure we can handle!
Love & Grace
Paula Rose Parish IHS
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#9 Reflections for the Golden Years
Isaiah 46:4 And I will still be carrying you when you are old. Your hair will turn grey, and I will still carry you. Saith the Lord, I made you, and I will carry you to safety.
We all know that at any age, there can be times when we seem to have a variety of aches and pains, which prompt us to think that a personal MOT might be timely! The fact of having a few chronic health issues doesn’t stop the majority of our ‘good bits’ from functioning really well. Indeed, people often speak of the compensation one gets for the loss of a sense. So, it is important to focus on the areas where all is still well.
As we age, we have a challenge in continuing to do those things we have always been able to handle as well as possible. We may not be as swift in our movements as before, but does that really matter? Younger people can be impetuous and, as in driving, go unnecessarily fast.
But as we age, to remain healthy in mind and body, we should calmly adjust to the speed to suit our mind and body (plus the rules of the road). It’s important to realize that we should never feel guilty by slowing down and doing things differently. I have a friend who ended up with a massive heart attack and was diagnosed due to stress because she refused to slow down as she was approaching her 70s.
Slowing down does not mean giving up, although many interpret it that way. Slowing down means being wise, listening to one’s body and mind and not pushing ourselves to exhaustion. God wants us to enjoy each day. God wants us to smell the roses, as they say, and enjoy the sky and the flowers. All there is to see and appreciate as we move through our day. If you had a beloved pet who became a part of the family but has now grown old, you would notice that he slows to his own speed, and you accept that with understanding and offer him comfort.
The old family pet drops some of his youthful tricks, finds himself a place in the sun, and does not fret about his new situation. It doesn’t preoccupy or cause him to wonder what other pets will think of their changed routine. How wise!
Of course, we also need to find the appropriate ‘place in the sun’ for ourselves as we age. A comfortable chair is a special gift to oneself. But a comfortable frame of mind is a ‘freebie’ that is even more rewarding.
However, Watching out for any sign of disinterest in people and exaggerated self-pity is essential. Regrets about past actions must be left behind with the realization that there is no change. You had ups and downs.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Like your pet, find activities you are comfortable with. Some may still climb up the nearest mountain. Others prefer to sit on the bank of the stream with their toes in the water. Choice, freedom and responsibility are blessings from God. Learn to practice contemplative prayer, go on retreats, be still and know that God is with you and IN you.
The golden years can be happy days of growth and creativity. It’s up to you!
Ruth 4:15: He will renew your life and sustain you in your old age.
Love & Grace
Paula Rose Parish IHS
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#8 Is Anger Justified? 4 Types of Anger.
The story is told that in the latter 1800s, Alfred Lord Tennyson invited a Russian nobleman to his estate. And early one morning, this nobleman took off with dogs & guns & servants to go hunting. At mid-day, he returned & Lord Tennyson asked him how he did. He answered, “Not very well. I shot two peasants.” Lord Tennyson thought for a moment & then said, “No, we pronounce it with a ‘ph’ here. It is ‘pheasants.’ You shot two pheasants.” “No,” the nobleman replied, “I shot two peasants. They were insolent towards me, so I shot them.”
Now, we smile in disbelief at a story like that. But last May, a driver in Swansea abused another driver, a woman in road rage. He was charged with verbal assault. When asked why he was angry and abusive, he said it was because she was black. That happened in Swansea, But stories like that have popped up nationwide. People become abusive due to their evil prejudices and uncontrolled anger. Now, of course, none of us would do anything like that. Would we?
Well, have you ever lost your temper? Do you ever do things you wish you hadn’t done or say things you wish you had never said? The Bible has something to say about overcoming anger. Proverbs 19:11 says, “A person’s wisdom gives him patience. It is to his glory to overlook an offence.“
Now there is the secret, isn’t it? If someone offends you, & if you are a person of wisdom (God’s wisdom), then you can overlook it, & not allow the situation to become a significant event that overwhelms you. Over the years, I have discovered that there are 4 types of anger dealt with in the Bible.
First of all, there is sudden anger. The Bible says that sudden anger is to be controlled.
Secondly, there is sinful anger. The Bible says that sinful anger is to be condemned.
Thirdly, there is stubborn anger. Stubborn anger is to be conquered.
Finally, there is sanctified anger. And sanctified anger is to be channelled.
So, let’s briefly look at each of those 4 types of anger.
First of all, there is SUDDEN ANGER TO BE CONTROLLED. The Bible says that sudden anger is to be controlled. Proverbs 14:17 says, “A quick-tempered person does foolish things.” We already knew that because we’ve experienced that in our own lives. We may blame our quick temper on our red hair and our parents. Or we may blame it on our heritage. After all, we’re Irish or something like that. We may even be proud of it. But the bottom line is, if we have a short fuse, we will do many foolish things.
When we lose our temper, we’ll say things we know we shouldn’t have said, & do things that we’ll be sorry for later on. Next, Proverbs 15:18 says, “A hot-tempered person stirs up dissension.” That simply means that if you have a short fuse, if you’re constantly losing your temper, if you’re walking around with a chip on your shoulder if you’re just looking for somebody to say something that will irritate you, then you’re going to leave a trail of hurt feelings & unhappiness behind you. Will Rogers said, “Whenever you fly into a rage, you seldom make a safe landing.” And he is right. Chuck Swindoll said, “I got so angry that I gave him a piece of my mind. And it was a piece that I couldn’t afford to lose.”
The writer of Proverbs said, “A hot temper stirs up dissension.”
Proverbs 18:13 says, “He who answers before listening – that is his folly & his shame.” He is talking about jumping to conclusions. We hear just a little bit of what is said, & we instantly jump to a conclusion, & often, it is the wrong conclusion. Have you heard about the dog named “August” who was always trying to chase a mule named “Conclusion?” One day, he jumped at conclusion & bit him, & Conclusion kicked back in August. And that was the last day of August. Think about that for a moment. Sometimes, we jump to conclusions, & Solomon says that it is to our folly & our shame.
Proverbs 19:19 says, “A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty.” We’re being told that almost every day. Doctors tell us that losing our temper consistently brings about high blood pressure, dryness of mouth, & a fast-beating heart. It could even bring premature death. A hot temper could also mean the loss of family & friends. The penalties for losing our temper are many. So the Bible says, “If you have a sudden temper, then you need to control it.” But how can we do that?
You say, “Why, I just can’t control my temper. It gets away from me.” But you can. Have you ever engaged in a heated discussion with your voice getting louder & your words becoming more rapid? Then the telephone rings & you say, “Hello.” Sure, you can control your temper. So, we need to recognize that we have a problem with a temper. As long as we deny it, as long as we blame it on heritage, short-fuse, or whatever we choose to blame it on, we’ll never improve.
Then, we must confess our problem to God & ask for His help. “Lord, I’m beginning to lose my temper, & I’ve done it many times. Please help me see what is causing it to happen, & then help me to overcome it.” Contemplative prayer can settle us, bring us face-to-face with who we are, and bring us fantastic healing if we submit that the Bible teaches that when the Holy Spirit guides our life, one fruit of the spirit is self-control. And if you have a sudden temper, you need to control it.
SINFUL ANGER IS TO BE CONDEMNED.
The second type of anger discussed in scripture is sinful anger. Not all anger is sinful, & we’ll talk about that in just a minute. But some anger is. So, let me give you some tests this morning to help you determine whether your anger is sinful. In Matthew 5:21, Jesus says, “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, `Do not murder, & anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ But I tell you that anyone angry with his brother will be subject to judgment.”Now, that passage tells us some things about anger that should help us realize when our anger is sinful & when it is not.
First, it says, “Anyone who is angry with his brother.” Now, if you’re a brother or sister to someone, it indicates that you are a member of the same family, whether a domestic family or the family of God. If we’re brothers & sisters, we ought to lift each other up, supporting & helping each other. We should not spend our time being angry at one another. The King James Version discusses being angry at your brother “without a cause.” If we are angry & don’t have a legitimate reason for being angry, then this tells us that our anger is sinful. Then, if you’re angry at your brother, that indicates that you are focusing your anger on a person. We should never focus our anger on people but rather on the sins they commit.
Jesus was never angry at people, but He was angry at their sins. So look beyond the person. We must love the person but hate their sin. So, if you’re angry at your brother or focusing on someone, your anger is sinful. In Romans 12:19, Paul says, “Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: `It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord.”
So the third test of our anger is this: Is it anger that seeks revenge? Are we always trying to get even? The Bible teaches that God is the one who has the right to vengeance. Not us. “Vengeance is mine,” says the Lord. We don’t have the right to repay anyone. But instead, turn that over to God.
So if our anger is geared towards seeking revenge, it is sinful. If it is vengeful, then most likely, it is also deep anger that is cherished. Remember what Jesus said to the man who was by the pool, waiting to be healed, & he couldn’t get to the water soon enough?
Jesus asked him, “Do you want to be healed?” Important question! There are a lot of people who enjoy being sick because of the attention it gets them. And there are a lot of people who love being angry. They’ve been angry for years. Inside them, there is a boiling mass of anger. So, if anger is cherished, it most certainly is sinful anger. If it is cherished anger, it will also be a wave of anger with an unforgiving spirit. The secret to getting rid of anger is to forgive. But if you can’t forgive, if you can’t release it, then it is a fit of sinful anger. So here are the 5 tests to tell whether or not our anger is sinful.
- Is it anger directed towards a person?
- Is it anger without a justifiable cause?
- Is it anger that seeks vengeance?
- Is it anger that is cherished?
- Is it anger that has an unforgiving spirit?
If any of the answers to those questions is “yes,” then our anger is a wave of sinful anger. And the Bible says that it is to be condemned. If it is sinful, we need to repent, turn away from it, & allow God to forgive us so that we can become forgiving people, too.
STUBBORN ANGER IS TO BE CONQUERED.
The third type of anger is stubborn anger. It is an anger that stays there, day after day. One of the classic passages that deals with anger begins in Ephesians 4:26. The KJV says, “Be ye angry, & sin not. Let not the sun go down on your wrath.” And the next verse says, “And do not give the devil a foothold.”
One day you go home & you’re angry. You’re carrying a chip on your shoulder, waiting for someone to knock it off. Then your wife says something you don’t particularly appreciate, & soon, heated words are exchanged. It really doesn’t amount to much, but you’re determined to get your way, & she is determined to get her way. So, the argument continues. The sun goes down & night-time comes. Then, in bed, she faces that way & you face this way, & you both make sure you don’t touch each other.
Do you realize what has happened? The Bible says that you have opened the door, & said, “Mr. Devil, come right on in. We’ll make you welcome here.” Then, in vs. 31, Paul mentions what happens when Satan begins to do his dirty work. The first result is “bitterness.” You begin to think about all the bad things people do & say to you, all the insults, all of the inconsiderate things that go on.
Then Paul says, “After bitterness comes rage & anger.” “Rage” is bitterness boiling & bubbling inside of you. And “anger” is rage being expressed. It is no longer just inside you. Now you begin to kick the cat, & hit the wall. Now you begin to say all kinds of things until finally, it becomes “brawling,” which means “shouting loudly,” & “slander” or “insults.” “Look at this house. It’s a pigsty. I come home every day & these kids are dirty. You don’t know how to take care of them. What makes you think you’re a homemaker?” And on & on, it goes back & forth. And the end result of it all, Paul says, is “malice.” And “malice” means that you really desire to harm. That’s why we’re always reading about someone shooting his wife & turning the gun on himself. Because the ultimate end of stubborn anger is malice and absolute hate.
Paul said, “Here is how to get rid of stubborn anger. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath.” Vs. 32 says, “Be kind & compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
SANCTIFIED ANGER MUST BE CHANNELED IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION FOR GOD.
Finally, there is Sanctified anger. And that must be channelled in the right direction for God. Remember, Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be ye angry. . .” It is okay to be angry, but do not sin. Let me read to you from Mark 3:1-5. This passage deals with a situation in the life of Jesus that I think is very revealing. It says:
“Another time, he went into the synagogue, & a man with a shrivelled hand was there. Some were looking for a reason to accuse Jesus, so they watched him closely to see if he would heal him on the Sabbath. And Jesus said to the man with the shrivelled hand, `Stand up in front of everyone. Then Jesus asked them, `Which is lawful on the Sabbath: to do good or evil, to save a life or to kill?’ But they remained silent. He looked around at them in anger & deeply distressed at their stubborn hearts.
You see, the focus of His anger is their hearts. He is angry because of their stubborn hearts & their stubborn anger. The sun has gone down. The sun has come up. And the devil has established a foothold in their lives. And Jesus is angry at their stubborn anger. Then Jesus said, “Stretch out your hand.” And he stretched it out, & his hand was completely restored.“
The Bible says that Jesus was tempted in all points, even as we are tempted, but He never sinned. So this passage teaches that Jesus became angry, but it wasn’t sinful anger. It was sanctified anger, channelled anger, anger that has the proper focus, & the correct object. Maybe an infusion of anger is the very thing that the church needs. To become angry at the corruption of the world. To become angry at the forces of evil. To become angry at pornography, for example, because it reaches into every segment of society and ruins lives. To become angry at the millions of abortions. To become angry at the increase in crime & murders & rapes.
To become angry at the abuse of alcohol & drugs in our society. To become angry because millions of people are dying & going to Christless graves. It is time for the church to become angry, with sanctified, holy anger channelled in the right places. There are all kinds of anger. And if you are wrestling with them, God promises to give you victory if you let Him. So be angry, but don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down upon your wrath. Don’t allow the devil to have a foothold in your life. But channel that anger so it can begin to accomplish victories for Jesus.
We get angry at the sin, and that’s OK; it should provoke us to Godly action. But we remember that we must unconditionally love the person, as Jesus did because they are made in God’s image as you are- and you are not perfect either!
We offer His invitation. Jesus Christ stands ready & willing to come into your heart & into your life. If you confess your faith in Him, & repent of your sins, & be faithful to him in Christian baptism, He has promised to forgive your sins.
If you are already a Christian, a believer in Jesus, we invite you to join us in the ministry that God has given us here. Whatever your decision, we offer the invitation of Jesus. Will you come as we stand together in love and unity?
Love & Grace
Paula Rose Parish IHS
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