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The story is told that in the latter 1800s, Alfred Lord Tennyson invited a Russian nobleman to his estate. And early one morning, this nobleman took off with dogs & guns & servants to go hunting. At mid-day, he returned & Lord Tennyson asked him how he did. He answered, “Not very well. I shot two peasants.” Lord Tennyson thought for a moment & then said, “No, we pronounce it with a ‘ph’ here. It is ‘pheasants.’ You shot two pheasants.” “No,” the nobleman replied, “I shot two peasants. They were insolent towards me, so I shot them.”

Now, we smile in disbelief at a story like that. But last May, a driver in Swansea abused another driver, a woman in road rage. He was charged with verbal assault. When asked why he was angry and abusive, he said it was because she was black.  That happened in Swansea,  But stories like that have popped up nationwide. People become abusive due to their evil prejudices and uncontrolled anger. Now, of course, none of us would do anything like that. Would we?

Well, have you ever lost your temper? Do you ever do things you wish you hadn’t done or say things you wish you had never said?  The Bible has something to say about overcoming anger. Proverbs 19:11 says, “A person’s wisdom gives him patience. It is to his glory to overlook an offence.“ 

Now there is the secret, isn’t it? If someone offends you, & if you are a person of wisdom (God’s wisdom), then you can overlook it, & not allow the situation to become a significant event that overwhelms you. Over the years, I have discovered that there are 4 types of anger dealt with in the Bible.

First of all, there is sudden anger. The Bible says that sudden anger is to be controlled.

Secondly, there is sinful anger. The Bible says that sinful anger is to be condemned.

Thirdly, there is stubborn anger. Stubborn anger is to be conquered.

Finally, there is sanctified anger. And sanctified anger is to be channelled.

So, let’s briefly look at each of those 4 types of anger. 

First of all, there is SUDDEN ANGER TO BE CONTROLLED. The Bible says that sudden anger is to be controlled. Proverbs 14:17 says, “A quick-tempered person does foolish things.” We already knew that because we’ve experienced that in our own lives. We may blame our quick temper on our red hair and our parents. Or we may blame it on our heritage. After all, we’re Irish or something like that. We may even be proud of it. But the bottom line is, if we have a short fuse, we will do many foolish things.

When we lose our temper, we’ll say things we know we shouldn’t have said, & do things that we’ll be sorry for later on. Next, Proverbs 15:18 says, “A hot-tempered person stirs up dissension.” That simply means that if you have a short fuse, if you’re constantly losing your temper, if you’re walking around with a chip on your shoulder if you’re just looking for somebody to say something that will irritate you, then you’re going to leave a trail of hurt feelings & unhappiness behind you. Will Rogers said, “Whenever you fly into a rage, you seldom make a safe landing.” And he is right.  Chuck Swindoll said, “I got so angry that I gave him a piece of my mind. And it was a piece that I couldn’t afford to lose.”

                        The writer of Proverbs said, “A hot temper stirs up dissension.” 

Proverbs 18:13 says, “He who answers before listening – that is his folly & his shame.” He is talking about jumping to conclusions. We hear just a little bit of what is said, & we instantly jump to a conclusion, & often, it is the wrong conclusion. Have you heard about the dog named “August” who was always trying to chase a mule named “Conclusion?” One day, he jumped at conclusion & bit him, & Conclusion kicked back in August. And that was the last day of August. Think about that for a moment. Sometimes, we jump to conclusions, & Solomon says that it is to our folly & our shame. 

Proverbs 19:19 says, “A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty.” We’re being told that almost every day. Doctors tell us that losing our temper consistently brings about high blood pressure, dryness of mouth, & a fast-beating heart. It could even bring premature death. A hot temper could also mean the loss of family & friends. The penalties for losing our temper are many. So the Bible says, “If you have a sudden temper, then you need to control it.” But how can we do that?

You say, “Why, I just can’t control my temper. It gets away from me.” But you can. Have you ever engaged in a heated discussion with your voice getting louder & your words becoming more rapid? Then the telephone rings & you say, “Hello.” Sure, you can control your temper.  So, we need to recognize that we have a problem with a temper. As long as we deny it, as long as we blame it on heritage, short-fuse, or whatever we choose to blame it on, we’ll never improve.

Then, we must confess our problem to God & ask for His help. “Lord, I’m beginning to lose my temper, & I’ve done it many times. Please help me see what is causing it to happen, & then help me to overcome it.” Contemplative prayer can settle us, bring us face-to-face with who we are, and bring us fantastic healing if we submit that the Bible teaches that when the Holy Spirit guides our life, one fruit of the spirit is self-control. And if you have a sudden temper, you need to control it.

SINFUL ANGER IS TO BE CONDEMNED.

The second type of anger discussed in scripture is sinful anger. Not all anger is sinful, & we’ll talk about that in just a minute. But some anger is. So, let me give you some tests this morning to help you determine whether your anger is sinful. In Matthew 5:21, Jesus says, “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, `Do not murder, & anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ But I tell you that anyone angry with his brother will be subject to judgment.”Now, that passage tells us some things about anger that should help us realize when our anger is sinful & when it is not. 

First, it says, “Anyone who is angry with his brother.” Now, if you’re a brother or sister to someone, it indicates that you are a member of the same family, whether a domestic family or the family of God. If we’re brothers & sisters, we ought to lift each other up, supporting & helping each other. We should not spend our time being angry at one another. The King James Version discusses being angry at your brother “without a cause.” If we are angry & don’t have a legitimate reason for being angry, then this tells us that our anger is sinful.  Then, if you’re angry at your brother, that indicates that you are focusing your anger on a person. We should never focus our anger on people but rather on the sins they commit.

Jesus was never angry at people, but He was angry at their sins. So look beyond the person. We must love the person but hate their sin.  So, if you’re angry at your brother or focusing on someone, your anger is sinful. In Romans 12:19, Paul says, “Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: `It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord.”

So the third test of our anger is this: Is it anger that seeks revenge? Are we always trying to get even? The Bible teaches that God is the one who has the right to vengeance. Not us. “Vengeance is mine,” says the Lord. We don’t have the right to repay anyone. But instead, turn that over to God.

So if our anger is geared towards seeking revenge, it is sinful.  If it is vengeful, then most likely, it is also deep anger that is cherished. Remember what Jesus said to the man who was by the pool, waiting to be healed, & he couldn’t get to the water soon enough?

Jesus asked him, “Do you want to be healed?” Important question! There are a lot of people who enjoy being sick because of the attention it gets them. And there are a lot of people who love being angry. They’ve been angry for years. Inside them, there is a boiling mass of anger. So, if anger is cherished, it most certainly is sinful anger.  If it is cherished anger, it will also be a wave of anger with an unforgiving spirit. The secret to getting rid of anger is to forgive. But if you can’t forgive, if you can’t release it, then it is a fit of sinful anger. So here are the 5 tests to tell whether or not our anger is sinful.

1. Is it anger directed towards a person? 
2. Is it anger without a justifiable cause?
3. Is it anger that seeks vengeance? 
4. Is it anger that is cherished?
5. Is it anger that has an unforgiving spirit?

If any of the answers to those questions is “yes,” then our anger is a wave of sinful anger. And the Bible says that it is to be condemned. If it is sinful, we need to repent, turn away from it, & allow God to forgive us so that we can become forgiving people, too.

STUBBORN ANGER IS TO BE CONQUERED.

The third type of anger is stubborn anger. It is an anger that stays there, day after day. One of the classic passages that deals with anger begins in Ephesians 4:26. The KJV says, “Be ye angry, & sin not. Let not the sun go down on your wrath.” And the next verse says, “And do not give the devil a foothold.” 

One day you go home & you’re angry. You’re carrying a chip on your shoulder, waiting for someone to knock it off. Then your wife says something you don’t particularly appreciate, & soon, heated words are exchanged. It really doesn’t amount to much, but you’re determined to get your way, & she is determined to get her way. So, the argument continues. The sun goes down & night-time comes. Then, in bed, she faces that way & you face this way, & you both make sure you don’t touch each other. 

Do you realize what has happened? The Bible says that you have opened the door, & said, “Mr. Devil, come right on in. We’ll make you welcome here.” Then, in vs. 31, Paul mentions what happens when Satan begins to do his dirty work. The first result is “bitterness.” You begin to think about all the bad things people do & say to you, all the insults, all of the inconsiderate things that go on. 

Then Paul says, “After bitterness comes rage & anger.” “Rage” is bitterness boiling & bubbling inside of you. And “anger” is rage being expressed. It is no longer just inside you. Now you begin to kick the cat, & hit the wall. Now you begin to say all kinds of things until finally, it becomes “brawling,” which means “shouting loudly,” & “slander” or “insults.”  “Look at this house. It’s a pigsty. I come home every day & these kids are dirty. You don’t know how to take care of them. What makes you think you’re a homemaker?” And on & on, it goes back & forth. And the end result of it all, Paul says, is “malice.” And “malice” means that you really desire to harm. That’s why we’re always reading about someone shooting his wife & turning the gun on himself. Because the ultimate end of stubborn anger is malice and absolute hate.

Paul said, “Here is how to get rid of stubborn anger. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath.” Vs. 32 says, “Be kind & compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” 

SANCTIFIED ANGER MUST BE CHANNELED IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION FOR GOD.

Finally, there is Sanctified anger. And that must be channelled in the right direction for God. Remember, Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be ye angry. . .” It is okay to be angry, but do not sin.  Let me read to you from Mark 3:1-5. This passage deals with a situation in the life of Jesus that I think is very revealing. It says:

“Another time, he went into the synagogue, & a man with a shrivelled hand was there. Some were looking for a reason to accuse Jesus, so they watched him closely to see if he would heal him on the Sabbath. And Jesus said to the man with the shrivelled hand, `Stand up in front of everyone. Then Jesus asked them, `Which is lawful on the Sabbath: to do good or evil, to save a life or to kill?’ But they remained silent. He looked around at them in anger & deeply distressed at their stubborn hearts. 

You see, the focus of His anger is their hearts. He is angry because of their stubborn hearts & their stubborn anger. The sun has gone down. The sun has come up. And the devil has established a foothold in their lives. And Jesus is angry at their stubborn anger. Then Jesus said, “Stretch out your hand.” And he stretched it out, & his hand was completely restored.“

The Bible says that Jesus was tempted in all points, even as we are tempted, but He never sinned. So this passage teaches that Jesus became angry, but it wasn’t sinful anger. It was sanctified anger, channelled anger, anger that has the proper focus, & the correct object. Maybe an infusion of anger is the very thing that the church needs. To become angry at the corruption of the world. To become angry at the forces of evil. To become angry at pornography, for example, because it reaches into every segment of society and ruins lives. To become angry at the millions of abortions. To become angry at the increase in crime & murders & rapes.

To become angry at the abuse of alcohol & drugs in our society. To become angry because millions of people are dying & going to Christless graves. It is time for the church to become angry, with sanctified, holy anger channelled in the right places. There are all kinds of anger. And if you are wrestling with them, God promises to give you victory if you let Him. So be angry, but don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down upon your wrath. Don’t allow the devil to have a foothold in your life. But channel that anger so it can begin to accomplish victories for Jesus.

We get angry at the sin, and that’s OK; it should provoke us to Godly action. But we remember that we must unconditionally love the person, as Jesus did because they are made in God’s image as you are- and you are not perfect either!

We offer His invitation. Jesus Christ stands ready & willing to come into your heart & into your life. If you confess your faith in Him, & repent of your sins, & be faithful to him in Christian baptism, He has promised to forgive your sins.

If you are already a Christian, a believer in Jesus, we invite you to join us in the ministry that God has given us here. Whatever your decision, we offer the invitation of Jesus. Will you come as we stand together in love and unity?

 Love & Grace

Paula Rose Parish IHS

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